tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post1545309934457213885..comments2023-10-29T10:29:53.827-04:00Comments on Just For Today - Leveraging The Tools of Al-Anon: Healed or Be Justified - Your ChoiceUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-42234159946126235302011-01-15T19:40:49.655-05:002011-01-15T19:40:49.655-05:00Suzanne.. I experienced the provoking/baiting for ...Suzanne.. I experienced the provoking/baiting for the first time really a week ago. The effect on me has been like a physical attack. I just don't know how to get passed this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-19948985518031785642008-12-21T17:35:00.000-05:002008-12-21T17:35:00.000-05:00This is an amazing blog. One of the things I love ...This is an amazing blog. One of the things I love about Al-Anon is when I am in need of something I either read it, hear from a friend or it finds me in some weird way. Thanks for writing this!!High Hopeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05705506257947475842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-26591832993248129692008-12-16T23:16:00.000-05:002008-12-16T23:16:00.000-05:00"You can either be justified or be healed. But yo..."You can either be justified or be healed. But you cannot do both."<BR/><BR/>I once heard something similar. Two married guys were talking about arguing with their wives and one guy said to the other, "You can either be right or have sex, but not both." : )<BR/><BR/>It's all about choosing the path of peace and having a mind like water. In my head I think,"I choose not to argue with you because I love myself and want only positive energy in my life."<BR/><BR/>It is easy when there is no conflict at the moment. But it becomes very difficult when the alcoholic's provoking/baiting occurs. The hardest part is RECOGNIZING the provoking/baiting for what it is when it begins to happen, and then adjusting my response immediately instead of falling back on old habits and just reacting.<BR/><BR/>SuzanneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-26138369600550035492008-12-16T10:12:00.000-05:002008-12-16T10:12:00.000-05:00I never read this before - I like it - and it give...I never read this before - I like it - and it gives me a new and fresh spin on how to look at things. <BR/><BR/>CatWait. What?https://www.blogger.com/profile/16914656489970904052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-14036212956705469262008-12-15T10:47:00.000-05:002008-12-15T10:47:00.000-05:00You're right about justifying. It's also a way for...You're right about justifying. It's also a way for me to stay stuck in a position that keeps my character defects at front and center.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-91372512575838270802008-12-15T07:52:00.000-05:002008-12-15T07:52:00.000-05:00Have you read Chopra's _Book of Secrets_, Joe? Whi...Have you read Chopra's _Book of Secrets_, Joe? While the concepts are not "new," they're packaged in a way that I think would really resonate with where you're thinking's been going lately. Have a happy week - Jen, the aforementioned lurkerJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12740572292225624469noreply@blogger.com