tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post1831914816451396867..comments2023-10-29T10:29:53.827-04:00Comments on Just For Today - Leveraging The Tools of Al-Anon: On-line Weekend Al-Anon Meeting on; Denial & RecoveryUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-43943668882135241642008-05-08T16:31:00.000-04:002008-05-08T16:31:00.000-04:00Wow. It's easier to answer which ones do NOT appl...Wow. It's easier to answer which ones do NOT apply...<BR/><BR/>#8 is a maybe<BR/>#12 angry people make me uncomfortable, but not fearful. other times they just make me want to rage back at them.<BR/>#13 no<BR/>#14 intimate relationships...maybe? I probably have a problem? jury's still out on this one.<BR/>#15 I don't think I confuse pity with love<BR/>The rest are pretty much "yes" or "probably yes."<BR/><BR/>#20 is the big question. Because no one was ever visibly drunk, at least that I recall, it's hard to say. I don't know if our family dynamic was from alcohol or from my father's undiagnosed mood disorder. Maybe both.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-63644734405863799412008-05-04T20:03:00.000-04:002008-05-04T20:03:00.000-04:001, 2, 6, 18 and 19 sometimes.The rest thankfully, ...1, 2, 6, 18 and 19 sometimes.<BR/>The rest thankfully, not much.<BR/><BR/>The most difficult one for me is 18, mistrusting my own feelings and the feelings expressed by others. I have lately become more aware of when I am second guessing my decision or my interpretation of what others say, and see the consequences it will cause for me in the future. I have learned to rely more on my instinct and my first decision than to negotiate with myself. When I hear the negotiating/compromising voice in my head I know I need to ask myself, "Wait a minute... is this really what I want/ really what works for me?".<BR/><BR/>SuzanneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-53683474093249108152008-05-04T12:12:00.000-04:002008-05-04T12:12:00.000-04:00Anonymous, you can't make him get help. I too hav...Anonymous, you can't make him get help. I too have worried in the past (and the recent past) that possibly some day, one of my son's may commit suicide. But again that is nothing that I can control. This is what Alanon is all about. I can show love and support without enabling. I am still a work in progress. A therapist recently said to me that if I am doing all of the worrying for him, maybe he doesn't have to do it for himself. That is not a good thing for me or him. Hand things over to God/or your HP. And pray for the best for him and for you.ttthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06018092920225780040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-91877452934520101422008-05-04T08:01:00.000-04:002008-05-04T08:01:00.000-04:00I too feel responsible because the most afflicted ...I too feel responsible because the most afflicted drinker in my life is my adult son. I don't think I'm going to get past this like I did with my parents and husband. This is my most significant issue in all of the questions. <BR/><BR/>We are finally in crisis but I don't thrive on it to feel alive. I've been dreading it because I'm terrified this will all end badly, possibly in suicide. My daughter-in-law thinks his extreme binge drinking may be his way of hiding from the possibility that he may be gay and absolutely cannot face this.<BR/><BR/>We've been praying for our Higher Power to help him find a way to get help, but his denial and retreat into the bottle is so profound that it all feels so hopeless right now. I didn't cause this and can't control it, but knowing that doesn't help a bit.<BR/><BR/>This situation makes all the other questions feel irrelevant.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-61756424814116134692008-05-03T07:40:00.000-04:002008-05-03T07:40:00.000-04:00Here are the one's I deal with;1. I seek affirmati...Here are the one's I deal with;<BR/><BR/>1. I seek affirmation and approval of others. While I say I don't I really do. I am not sure this is not normal. It may be what I do to get the approval that is not normal.<BR/><BR/>8. I do like a crisis. I do feel the energy flowing. I know this is not healthy. I need to be aware of this and be aware as to not create a crisis, much like firefighters who love fires <BR/><BR/>12. Regarding authority and angry people. I don't fear them (do I?), but I don't like people who use their authority and arrogance. Does that count?<BR/><BR/>17. Clinging on to relationships. YES. I am afraid of being alone and without someoneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-27742902477579736462008-05-03T01:22:00.000-04:002008-05-03T01:22:00.000-04:00I do feel responsible for the drug addict in my li...I do feel responsible for the drug addict in my life because he is my son and he is young but no, it is certainly not serving me well at all.ttthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06018092920225780040noreply@blogger.com