tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post248552013914321840..comments2023-10-29T10:29:53.827-04:00Comments on Just For Today - Leveraging The Tools of Al-Anon: On-line Weekend Al-Anon Meeting on; Changing Our AttitudesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-50242493059892656892008-05-18T11:48:00.000-04:002008-05-18T11:48:00.000-04:00After attending only a few Al-Anon meetings, I'd s...After attending only a few Al-Anon meetings, I'd say the biggest change in my attitude was the realization that I'm not responsible for helping other people all the time. It was truly freeing to start expecting adults to be adults, and that someone else's decision to neglect a responsibility didn't mean it automatically became my job. <BR/><BR/>Now I am working on being compassionate, but with boundaries. How to be sympathetic but not take on others' problems as my own.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-89775636661648500402008-05-16T14:09:00.000-04:002008-05-16T14:09:00.000-04:00i dont have any problem with changing my attitude ...i dont have any problem with changing my attitude except for around the alcoholic in my life. I am down right frustrated with his whole personality. So i find it very hard to change my attitude.<BR/>I get irritable,agitated when iam around him. I just have to get out of his presense. When i tell him i dont nor i want to get involved with his stuff because i am working on me. He throws his comments at me I thought you were my friend you were my girlfriend.<BR/>Right now i am in school and doing very well.<BR/>He is entering school later on in life Anyhow threw the V.A. I do know how to obtain information from the college. Have suggested and given information He doesnt listen and every thing he does is so detailed to the point I dont even get how he lives with himself.<BR/>I just stepped back and said I didnt want to be involved with it. I was getting frustrated. My right,mythoughts my feelings period. I have to get away from him because i start having a change of attitude called Angry and Resentment. I have my own thoughts and i choose to keep them to myself or to talk with someone who actually listens. Alcoholics want your advice and then when you give it to them It gets disapprove So instead of me getting aggravated I dont want no parts of the drama and that is what it isAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-70915387994954441622008-05-16T12:26:00.000-04:002008-05-16T12:26:00.000-04:00My problem has and probably still is that I want t...My problem has and probably still is that I want to feel the love from another that I never seemed to get when around alcoholics. But I've learned that they can't give that to me. I have to feel that within myself and get it from my HP. It's hard somedays.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-34097759490129771542008-05-16T12:20:00.000-04:002008-05-16T12:20:00.000-04:00Because we are who we are, we are so SURE that our...Because we are who we are, we are so SURE that our attitude, perspective, view point is right. Changing our attitude seems unthinkable, because we are right ..... wrong!<BR/><BR/>I felt a shift in attitude a week or so ago that was so fundemental that it felt like an earthquake. I'm still not quite sure what it was ... maybe I stepped back, maybe I just waited for HIS comment, but whatever it was, it WORKED. There was an understanding, no spiral into chaos.<BR/><BR/>In the preamble to 'How Al-Anon Works' it says ...."that changed attitudes can aid recovery". I think that might be true - she says very tentitvely. Hmmmmm Pause for thought. SueAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com