tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post3446007648661665809..comments2023-10-29T10:29:53.827-04:00Comments on Just For Today - Leveraging The Tools of Al-Anon: Accept the DayUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-48908087235298281712008-07-24T07:05:00.000-04:002008-07-24T07:05:00.000-04:00Accept the day and just say "I am going to do my b...Accept the day and just say "I am going to do my best."<BR/><BR/>Sometimes I find it exhausting to try to do my best all of the time, both physically and emotionally. Do we really have to do our best all the time? Or am I confusing this with perfection?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-69971093014804050642008-07-23T22:22:00.000-04:002008-07-23T22:22:00.000-04:00I've not been reading the posts daily but logged o...I've not been reading the posts daily but logged on today and how serendipitous that it's what I really needed after all that has happened today with the alcoholic in my life. He's put out with me for detaching with love as now I refuse to rescue him from the problems he's created because of his drinking. Thanks for your help once again!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-7451632081891208652008-07-23T14:49:00.000-04:002008-07-23T14:49:00.000-04:00In certain circumstances, I have found that it is ...In certain circumstances, I have found that it is more damaging not to react than to react.<BR/><BR/>If it places me in jeopardy, or could be harmful to another, I have no problem shifting from observation, to a call of action.<BR/><BR/>At the same time, I find myself many times "over" reacting, and the post this morning made some very good points.<BR/><BR/>Peace this Wed.<BR/><BR/>KevinBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-70446100861489620102008-07-23T14:32:00.000-04:002008-07-23T14:32:00.000-04:00I think the difference between observe is in obser...I think the difference between observe is in observing our own reactions to otherwise unharmful or unhurtful events (physically or mentally). Often or sometimes we "over-react" to "slights" someone made or things we think about.<BR/><BR/>But - we have choices as well. We can set limits or boundaries on people's behavior to us or our children and sometimes themselves - in my opinion. Where we draw the line or say - "Enough" is clearly up to us. Because we are confused, and we may live in a "fog" becuase of the alcohol or drug abuse we may need to call in others to help us make the right decision. Talking to someone in the program and reasoning things out allows us to get help, draw boundaries (which are not idle threats), leave, or stay. <BR/><BR/>My advice to anyone in an abusive, or illegal situation, is to go to a church, a councillor, or to someone in the program to seek guidance. Neighbors and family are also helpful, but if they have not seen the effects of this disease they may think we are the ones who are blowing things out of proportion. <BR/><BR/>I know. I have been there. And I made my decision based upon what I needed to doJoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16995110086645670446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-16670641787164759102008-07-23T13:38:00.000-04:002008-07-23T13:38:00.000-04:00This gets confusing for me when I am observing som...This gets confusing for me when I am observing something that is illegal and wrong/hurtful to my family. I can stand back and observe, but then feel the call to figure out an appropriate reaction. Do I force myself not to react and to live with things I find unacceptable?<BR/>Thanks.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03802443231462920796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-46697508024702463182008-07-23T11:37:00.000-04:002008-07-23T11:37:00.000-04:00Observing and not reacting are important in my lif...Observing and not reacting are important in my life. Thanks for another great post.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-31027309015143299832008-07-23T09:02:00.000-04:002008-07-23T09:02:00.000-04:00Thank you for this. Very helpful this morning!Thank you for this. Very helpful this morning!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com