tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post4080524494017224418..comments2023-10-29T10:29:53.827-04:00Comments on Just For Today - Leveraging The Tools of Al-Anon: Do I Think? Or Is It Just Happening To Me?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-75849014947207554382008-04-26T23:29:00.000-04:002008-04-26T23:29:00.000-04:00Hi, Alicia; I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes...Hi, Alicia; <BR/>I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes some of the things that I've learned in AlAnon feel so counter to my personality that it's a struggle to apply them to my daily life. I had a crappy week and really could have used the program more to help me THINK about my responses to my qualifier. Instead I allowed his junky behavior to get to me and I seethed. Oh well... I have to let it go and know that tomorrow is another opportunity to grow. (One Day at a Time, right?) <BR/><BR/>I've been sticking with it for a few months now and seeing some improvement in my life. To change the way I think and the way I respond is a big job and it has required a serious investment of my time. It's been worth it, though. Hang in there and good luck to you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-42392531247142255812008-04-25T19:24:00.000-04:002008-04-25T19:24:00.000-04:00I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Standi...I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Standing back and seeing what I am today, as a capable adult not a child or as my qualifier sees me through his beer goggles/hangover, and over the past two weeks I've tried new actions on for size. This was all going well,keeping that voice quiet or at least scolding it and thinking something more positive and realistic. Today though, I feel so exhausted and pessimistic. Is it because I haven't been true to myself so long that I'm not used to it? Or is it fighting the voice everyday? Does it get easier? I'm new to al anon, went to my first meeting last week, but already it feels better just to know there is someone to talk to that can relate. Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-34003706480515567752008-04-23T18:58:00.000-04:002008-04-23T18:58:00.000-04:00My sponsor told me to write affirmations when I st...My sponsor told me to write affirmations when I started Al-Anon. I now tell my sponsees to do that, along with a gratitude list. We are who we think we are--if we think negatively, then that's what we become. I can choose to be happy and think positively or I can choose to be sad and think negatively. It's really up to me.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-52626604621966996392008-04-23T12:30:00.000-04:002008-04-23T12:30:00.000-04:00I had never thought of this but it is true.I am go...I had never thought of this but it is true.<BR/>I am going to make a point of listening to the voice in my head and trying to analyze it.<BR/>I wonder what I will find out..negativity..whose voice is it??<BR/><BR/>I'll have to wait and see.Serenity girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09941381829468129481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-53072293088414107632008-04-23T00:26:00.000-04:002008-04-23T00:26:00.000-04:00It's true I'm not a great cook; that's why I use a...It's true I'm not a great cook; that's why I use a calculator!! (OK, probably only I thought that was funny.)<BR/><BR/>Sue, I wonder if the World Services organization can help with your geographical isolation; they are committed to helping people find meetings, even remotely. <BR/><BR/>My qualifier nearly had me convinced that I have an out of control temper, and it's really a wonderful strategy on his part. I nearly bought it because I do get angry at him. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, I've just decided to ignore him on this point. I can decide for myself about my personality and leave him to his perceptions. <BR/><BR/>I've noticed a lot of that thinking can come from family, from childhood: every member of the family has their labels and their roles. The Martyer, the Artist, the Drunk, the Baby, etc. "You're so much like your father," became a very loaded statement in my family because it was often attached to his negative traits and the low self-esteem he displayed.<BR/><BR/>I've left a lot of that stuff behind but am still a member of the family, so the perceptions persist. As with the qualifier, there's no reason for me to exert myself trying to change the opinions of others.<BR/><BR/>Uh-oh. Gotta run!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-33732465116624696642008-04-22T23:38:00.000-04:002008-04-22T23:38:00.000-04:00I'm SOoo excited! Probably most of you out there g...I'm SOoo excited! <BR/><BR/>Probably most of you out there go to Al-anon meetings - I can't because my funny little island hasn't got any organised so YOU have been my only link to sanity, but now I have another. Amazon has just deposited "How Al-anon Works" on my door step.<BR/><BR/>You have all helped me to start to understand, so THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. <BR/><BR/>SueAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-18338114666324596342008-04-22T12:00:00.000-04:002008-04-22T12:00:00.000-04:00Good Morning All,The voice inside my head....So co...Good Morning All,<BR/><BR/>The voice inside my head....<BR/><BR/>So conditioned at times in regards to affecting the things I do, things I say, and the reactions to both. I find that many times the voice is actually what I think others think, and say about me, and how my perception of that is, right, wrong, or just plain skewed.<BR/><BR/>I work this morning on what it takes to re-inforce me, how I feel about myself, how I see myself in the mirror, my talents, and yes my short-comings. I can no longer wake up every morning assuming I need to be someone I am not, just because it is what I think I need to be for someone else, my job, or my friends.<BR/><BR/>I seek peace in my heart, compassion, desire to excel, and when I look in the mirror I like what I see, from the INSIDE OUT!<BR/><BR/>Peace this Tuesday.<BR/><BR/>KevinBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com