tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post4419645001840502335..comments2023-10-29T10:29:53.827-04:00Comments on Just For Today - Leveraging The Tools of Al-Anon: A Program - Everyone Needs OneUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-91571605636264984962008-07-31T21:55:00.000-04:002008-07-31T21:55:00.000-04:00Hilarious stuff about the latte! I agree, KevinB: ...Hilarious stuff about the latte! <BR/><BR/>I agree, KevinB: excellent post and comments from the chorus. <BR/><BR/>To Joe and all of you regulars as well as to the anonymouses of all stripes, I want you to know that I really appreciate reading your comments and get a lot of strength from your thoughts. I hope that you all have a wonderful weekend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-27804988953155301252008-07-31T14:18:00.000-04:002008-07-31T14:18:00.000-04:00Wow, what a great topic today, and comments as wel...Wow, what a great topic today, and comments as well.<BR/><BR/>Expectations have caused great grief in my life, I always thought it was the other, not me, that did not deliver what I expected of them.<BR/><BR/>Then I realized, that they might not even know what those expectations may be, so how could they even come close to meeting them?<BR/><BR/>mmmm. Guess this must be MY issue. I am learning to lose this thought process, and along with it, the resentments and assumptions.<BR/><BR/>Acquaintences - Dime a Dozen.<BR/><BR/>True Friends - Priceless.<BR/><BR/>Peace this Thursday.<BR/><BR/>KevinBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-84181367002962497342008-07-31T12:29:00.000-04:002008-07-31T12:29:00.000-04:00I'm trying to do something different, when observi...I'm trying to do something different, when observing people who don't have a program or aren't working one. I'm stepping back-detaching and looking at it as though they are teaching me a lesson. Some kind of a lesson such as patience, how unreasonable complaining sounds to me, my own judgements, compassion for someone who needs to find fault with things, and staying away from them if they disrupt my serenity, etc... (Everyone can learn some kind of lesson depending on the lens that they are looking at things).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-7905635315724203232008-07-31T10:00:00.000-04:002008-07-31T10:00:00.000-04:00I have few friends that I can count on outside of ...I have few friends that I can count on outside of Al-Anon. I know that within Al-Anon, there are several that would be there for me should I need help. I've come to not have expectations of friendship outside of the program.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-37422987897333879832008-07-30T21:44:00.000-04:002008-07-30T21:44:00.000-04:00I hear what you're saying about friends and our ex...I hear what you're saying about friends and our expectations that whatever we would do to help them, they would do for us in return. It doesn't always work out that way. <BR/><BR/>Over the past ten years I have come to realize how FEW friends I have and how MANY professional colleagues, neighbors, and acquaintences I have. I can count the (true) friends on one hand. True friends being people of such character who stick by me in good and in bad times, don't gossip, and treat me as they would want to be treated.<BR/><BR/>So in addition to letting go of my expectations of the alcoholic, I have begun to let go of my assumptions and expectations of others too. By letting go of my expectations I find it easier to forgive them when they disappoint me. They don't have such a high pedestel (?spelling?)to fall from in my eyes if I don't put them up there to begin with.<BR/><BR/>On another note, it makes no sense to me that the majority people go through life without any kind of a program, or if they have one they don't really incorporate it into their everyday behavior. But wait... there I go again with my expectations, expecting too much of the whole of humanity! This letting go stuff is more difficult than it looks. : )<BR/><BR/>Suzanne<BR/><BR/>PS I have been using the technique I read on this blog of being in the moment and just observing my surroundings, notice the color of the sky or something like that and focus on it intensely, when I need to detach. It has been helpful a couple of times lately. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com