tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post4447206688963939772..comments2023-10-29T10:29:53.827-04:00Comments on Just For Today - Leveraging The Tools of Al-Anon: Taking ResponsibilityUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-92121460731772373602008-09-29T22:46:00.000-04:002008-09-29T22:46:00.000-04:00Thank you for sharing Nona.I just received Courage...Thank you for sharing Nona.<BR/><BR/>I just received Courage to Change in the mail today-and will start tonight. <BR/><BR/>I am hopeful this will help with the sense of feeling overwhelmed by this person and this disease. <BR/><BR/>Thanks again-Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-46799109831885193052008-09-27T23:30:00.000-04:002008-09-27T23:30:00.000-04:00Mermaidgirl-We are told at our first meeting that ...Mermaidgirl-<BR/><BR/>We are told at our first meeting that we are not here for the alcoholic - this is our program, this is our recovery from the effects of living with the disease of alcholism. For me, living with alcoholism made me crazy! I was often irritable and unreasonable without knowing it. Our preamble states that "changed attitudes can aid in recovery." I used to think that if I changed my attitude about alcoholism and addiction it would aid my husbands recovery. That kept me going. Five years later I finally realized it was aiding my own recovery. Taking care of myself and making myself a priority was a tough adjustment for me to make. <BR/><BR/>We learn to recover from these effects by using the "tools" of the program such as "detach" and then there is "detach with love." For me this means to NOT react in ways that cause more problems. I can apply the "responsibility" Joe so eloquently speaks of to detachment. I can use other tools such as the slogans or HALT to help me make a "wise" choice as to whether or not I react or respond to the symptoms of this disease.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for letting me sharenonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13645955964320254212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-50468394372430463972008-09-26T17:59:00.000-04:002008-09-26T17:59:00.000-04:00I have many questions as I am still a newbie to th...I have many questions as I am still a newbie to the al-anon community and spouse of a current dry drunk. The status of newbie is also evidenced by my somewhat duplicate post the other day without knowing or realizing it. <BR/><BR/>I have seen many buzzwords on this site such as "detach" and other themes for example yours Joe, regarding the al-anon as being in "recovery". So-are the alcoholics' significant others considered to be in recovery as well? <BR/><BR/>And my biggest question: How do you detach from your spouse whom you are supposed to share your life with?<BR/><BR/>Like I said...so many questions and I'm in the midst of lots of chaos and "noise" and no matter how much I try, I cannot make sense of all of this. <BR/><BR/>I am so thankful for this site-it is becoming part of my morning and evening habit-<BR/><BR/>Peace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-12884280004449468332008-09-26T10:59:00.000-04:002008-09-26T10:59:00.000-04:00Joe,The last question in your blog this morning is...Joe,<BR/><BR/>The last question in your blog this morning is and continues to be the key element in my recovery.<BR/><BR/>I can tell you that in the MOMENT I thought I could say "yes" to both, however, I am finding that by "stepping back", I could no longer say "yes" to the price and consequences.<BR/><BR/>It has saved me from making the same severe mistake(s)in my forward motions of recovery.<BR/><BR/>When in doubt, take a step back, if it's right, it shall prove itself to be, if not, sometimes ya just have to "let it go".<BR/><BR/>Peace this Friday, everyone have a great weekend!<BR/><BR/>KevinBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com