tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post8884914239930751893..comments2023-10-29T10:29:53.827-04:00Comments on Just For Today - Leveraging The Tools of Al-Anon: Alcoholic Open Letter - To YOUUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-4175523496311149302008-01-24T15:35:00.000-05:002008-01-24T15:35:00.000-05:00Hi Joe,Anonymous this morning was KevinB,forgot my...Hi Joe,<BR/><BR/>Anonymous this morning was KevinB,<BR/>forgot my password.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-86093492572056914342008-01-24T15:33:00.000-05:002008-01-24T15:33:00.000-05:00Joe,Anonymous is KevinB, just can't remember my da...Joe,<BR/><BR/>Anonymous is KevinB, just can't remember my darn password.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-47521137899910161142008-01-24T14:00:00.000-05:002008-01-24T14:00:00.000-05:00Joe, thanks for some good words that everyone who ...Joe, thanks for some good words that everyone who has been affected by alcoholism should read. And the program does work if we remember we are powerless.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-22851019632312254122008-01-24T13:48:00.000-05:002008-01-24T13:48:00.000-05:00I know what you mean Anonymous. I definately know ...I know what you mean Anonymous. I definately know what you mean. It is tough. I have learned at many meetings at family night (where my spouse is going thru their recovery center) that boundary setting is critical to establish. And then following thru when the boundaries are broken actually keeps us from "enabling" the addict. When they see we are not serious, they keep on acting the way they do. This is because there are no consequences, because we always "rescue" them.<BR/><BR/>It is tough. It is very tough, because we are compassionate people and cannot stand to see someone we love fall apart. <BR/><BR/>Except that they are going to hit bottom sooner or later. Maybe we, thru setting boundaries and stop enabling them, bring the bottom up to meet them. AND at the same time protect us from a long drawn out, heart wrenching experience.<BR/><BR/>I hope this helps. And welcome<BR/><BR/>Hope to see you on-line this weekend!<BR/><BR/>JoeJoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16995110086645670446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-42855862618164077842008-01-24T12:45:00.000-05:002008-01-24T12:45:00.000-05:00Good Morning Joe,Boundaries, wish I would have kno...Good Morning Joe,<BR/><BR/>Boundaries, wish I would have known them so much sooner. Alcoholic wife (soon to be ex) of almost 5 years is out and running on her own, and her life is falling apart all around her, her job, friends, all of it. <BR/><BR/>She has been gone almost 3 months now, most of the time I hear from her when she needs money, or is in a brief state of sobriety. I have learned to say "no" however it is still very difficult to do so.<BR/><BR/>This new journey for me I know is going to be difficult, but I need to re-build me, and will take the steps and time required to do so.<BR/><BR/>One Day At A Time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-75869832585590034992008-01-23T15:28:00.000-05:002008-01-23T15:28:00.000-05:00Welcome KevinB. Please join us and comment on the ...Welcome KevinB. Please join us and comment on the blog post. Please take the opportunity to share your thoughts feelings and anything you'd like. Whether it is related to the blog post of the day or not.<BR/><BR/>We look forward to hearing from you.<BR/><BR/>JoeJoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16995110086645670446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-41114504976770093852008-01-23T11:29:00.000-05:002008-01-23T11:29:00.000-05:00Wow...!In being new to this whole journey, what a ...Wow...!<BR/><BR/>In being new to this whole journey, what a wonderful place to stumble across!<BR/><BR/>It shall be a place I visit daily to strengthen my will and spirit in my quest to be a better me, both for my own sanity, and what I can share with those so close to my heart.<BR/><BR/>Keep doin what your doin!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-64117566333909176672008-01-23T04:53:00.000-05:002008-01-23T04:53:00.000-05:00Angel - there is a link on the side bar (ooops tha...Angel - there is a link on the side bar (ooops that is a bad word) to the right of this blog. You will find "Just For Today" verses. They are not mine - they are Al-Anon's. They are excellent.<BR/><BR/>Also you will all find post topics under "Labels" on the right hand side as well that may help you.<BR/><BR/>JoeJoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16995110086645670446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-27410856504254128112008-01-23T03:59:00.000-05:002008-01-23T03:59:00.000-05:00WOW!! That is exactly what I needed to hear (or sh...WOW!! <BR/>That is exactly what I needed to hear (or should I say read). I stumbled on this site by accident, but I guess there really are no accidents :-) <BR/>"Just for Today", 3 small words that are so hard to live. Daily life with this disease takes such a toll on us sometimes that we forget that "we" are just as important as everyone else. <BR/>I guess I needed a little push and reading this today was the push I needed. <BR/>I know that when I take on more then I should, I get angry, harbor resentments and spend a lot of time on the "pity-pot". If I just start off by saying the phrase daily I know the action will follow :-)<BR/>Again, thanksAnjelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10084535023943824095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-84246779910322734952008-01-22T17:54:00.000-05:002008-01-22T17:54:00.000-05:00Lorraine - you are a good person. We have all bee...Lorraine - you are a good person. We have all been affected by the alcoholics in our lives. They have an illness. We need to remember this and have compassion for them. But we should not put their life ahead of ours and our health (mental and physical). And certainly not subjugate our children for the alcoholics demands and needs for assistance. The moment we give up and let them "figure it out" - on their own is the turning point. This is not cruel. This is not a punishment. This is for their own good. <BR/><BR/>PS - To all who don't know me. I provide advice or guidance at times. But I am really just giving myself advice because I have to keep reminding myself of these very same things. And knowing what I know, it is sometimes easier to spout this off than it is to break the pattern! But break it - you (I) must!<BR/><BR/>PSS - There is a story of the boiling frog somewhere in this blog. And the weird part is, once you break this addiction of helping the addict, you will have more weird experiences. This is called synchronicity.<BR/><BR/>JoeJoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16995110086645670446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-451509587037762640.post-78417106895341791042008-01-22T15:42:00.000-05:002008-01-22T15:42:00.000-05:00This is really weird...my girlfriend...the one who...This is really weird...my girlfriend...the one who was suppose to go to the Al-anon meeting with me and was a bigger chicken than I was...were discussing this very thing this morning. The snapshot from years ago I would have been a fighter....a go getter..trusting and believing God at His very word. But then life "comes at you fast"...Layer upon layer it covers the real you. You begin to hide, pretend, cover up...remain angry and sad. You have trouble seeing that the glass is half full and not half empty. It is like the frog in the boiling water...it doesn't jump out because the water heats up subtly. I have professed this on this blog before...and I will say it again...I want to live. I want to choose to be happy...and stretch, grow and learn! I must choose to stop believing the lies I have been led to believe. I only blame myself for that one...My God loves me unconditionally...He is my source, my refuge and strength. It is up to me to run to my Father's arms and not to the comfort of old familiar patterns and ruts. <BR/>Thank you Joe for this letter...You gave me a gift in your words....they are words of life and encourgement.Lorrainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17809780410176722692noreply@blogger.com