In Al-Anon I learn NOT to ask "What if?"
But "what if?"
What if I didn't judge? What if I didn't judge myself? What if I didn't judge others?
What if I could eliminate my judgment of myself and others? What would that look like?
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It is a thought that cannot just be read. I really have to feel it. When I do this, I am "released."
Love this post. This is what I am working on right now as well as feelings of compassion. I am trying really hard to see this disease for what it is - a disease. And to be nonjudgemental towards those with it and to have sincere compassion for them.
ReplyDeleteAt times when I'm feeling critical, my mantra is "I have no no judgement, I have no judgement". I've found that the more I become non-judgey or non-critical, I'm getting healthier all of the time. And I mean this in regard to "all of my affairs", not just regarding my AA's. Oh! And this most certainly means, regarding myself. I'm focusing on being gentle with myself too.
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ReplyDeletethe world would be a much more gentle and kind place to live if we all asked this kind of what if - and really felt it...
ReplyDeleteVery good post. What has been foremost on my mind today has been the pain of my disease. "What if" I didn't think about it? This was a thought-provoking post ~ Allison
ReplyDeleteI was invited back to Al-Anon today but a friend. Both her and I have son's on drugs and we both stopped going to meetings. But when I read posts by people like you and comments, I am reminded how valuable it is to learn these life tools. Thanks
ReplyDeleteI like what you said. I do my best not to say what if, yes but, or if only. I mind my business and try to stay in the day. Few expectations keep me in the day and reasonably happy.
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