Al-Anon - a good one liner for people trying to provoke us.
I must admit, I stole this one liner. I stole it from the website - Loveandlogic.com
The website is about raising children and has some great articles. One of the articles is about "tease proofing" our children. The article discusses how a 2nd grade teacher taught his class a "cool look" and how to maintain it when being teased. It also gave a one-liner for the child to say back to the tormentor.
The one-liner "Thanks for sharing."
I thought, "How cool."
I was hooked by my qualifier last week. I engaged. I retorted. I gave my rebuttal.
But I lost serenity. Not a good trade.
It happened again yesterday when she called and told me how "unnice" I am.
Well, the next time someone says something that may trigger me, I am going to say, "Thanks for sharing." with no hostility or anger or sarcasm. I need to work on the cool look though. My child says I look anything but cool. "Geez, thanks for sharing!"
For more on my stealing here is the pdf http://www.loveandlogic.com/pdfs/teaseproof.pdf
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
"Gee, Thanks for Sharing."
at 7:32 AM
Labels: Detachment, Engage, Positive, Setting Boundaries
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4 comments:
I'm not much on sarcasm so I'll have to think about that one. I don't think that I could deliver the line without a trace of sarcasm. I probably would be better off just keeping my mouth shut. That sometimes speaks volumes.
Joe,
Amen.
Thanks for sharing!
Peace this Tuesday.
Kevinb
Syd - I didn't think about the tone of it. It would certainly have a ring of sarcasm.
May be a qucik "Thank you" or "Thank you very much" with some humor - warm humor - would be better!
That is a neat trick for kids on the playground! Children can be so unkind without understanding the consequences of what they are doing.
I have yet to come up with a standard verbal response that is an effective antidote to alcoholic argument bait. My own best response when I smell bait is to remember to swim away from the hook. Swim away from the hook, say...that makes a rather nice picture in my head. I will picture a fish swimming serenely away from a baited hook next time I need to.
Suzanne
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