Thursday, April 30, 2009

Just In: What If . . . ?

In Al-Anon I learn NOT to ask "What if?"

But "what if?"

What if I didn't judge? What if I didn't judge myself? What if I didn't judge others?

What if I could eliminate my judgment of myself and others? What would that look like?

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It is a thought that cannot just be read. I really have to feel it. When I do this, I am "released."

7 comments:

Gin said...

Love this post. This is what I am working on right now as well as feelings of compassion. I am trying really hard to see this disease for what it is - a disease. And to be nonjudgemental towards those with it and to have sincere compassion for them.

Cindy said...

At times when I'm feeling critical, my mantra is "I have no no judgement, I have no judgement". I've found that the more I become non-judgey or non-critical, I'm getting healthier all of the time. And I mean this in regard to "all of my affairs", not just regarding my AA's. Oh! And this most certainly means, regarding myself. I'm focusing on being gentle with myself too.

Cindy said...

*no judgement

Cat said...

the world would be a much more gentle and kind place to live if we all asked this kind of what if - and really felt it...

AllisonRhodes said...

Very good post. What has been foremost on my mind today has been the pain of my disease. "What if" I didn't think about it? This was a thought-provoking post ~ Allison

Barbara(aka Layla) said...

I was invited back to Al-Anon today but a friend. Both her and I have son's on drugs and we both stopped going to meetings. But when I read posts by people like you and comments, I am reminded how valuable it is to learn these life tools. Thanks

Syd said...

I like what you said. I do my best not to say what if, yes but, or if only. I mind my business and try to stay in the day. Few expectations keep me in the day and reasonably happy.