This is about how to use this blog to your benefit.
On the right hand side of the blog, you will see links to a lot of information. It may seem confusing at first. But if you look to the right of this blog, you will see the following;
1. The latest 5 Blog Posts
These latest 5 posts to this blog is a fast and easy way to search.
2. A Table of Contents: Label of Past Posts
The table of contents (diagram on the right) allows you to search the entire blog very quickly bringing back all the blog posts related to the Label or Topic and all the readers comments.
3. Other Resources Links
Toward the bottom of the blog are scientific and government sponsored links about addiction and alcohol studies. These are placed here for you to click or link to. These are the major resources and organizations that are looking into the disease.
A word of caution: In our attempts to understand, we often become consumed by it and attempt to fix the alcoholic. This is a mistake as this is our attempt to control and fix, which is impossible to do. It becomes our obsession (addiction) and our disease.
4. What Other People Are Saying
On the right toward to top middle, you'll find the latest 5 comments people have made. You can click on the actual comment and it will take you to the comment AND the actual Blog Post. This is a fast, easy way to see what situations others are dealing with and their coping strategies.
5. Past Diary Posts
Here you can search by the Date of the Post and Title. You can see the Blog Post and the Comments.
The Google Search Field: Really Cool. At the upper, left corner of your screen (scroll back to the top) you'll see a search display. You can search this blog by typing in a word like "detachment" or "vent" or other words. The Search Engine will search the blog for all words matching this request and bring back all those Blog Posts/Articles matching your request.
6. Get a Better View of the Post and Comments by . . . You can get a better view of the posts and comments by double clicking the Article (or Post) Title. Clicking on the Post Title will bring back only that article/post and the comments so you don't have to flip to the comments to see what others are saying. This allow you to go back to the blog post and the comments just by scrolling up and down on the screen.
This makes it easier for you to read what others are saying and the actual blog post/article.
7. Your Responsibility and Gift
The fact you are taking time to read this Blog, realize the greatest gift you can provide a blogger is making comments. All comments are really Anonymous, although people use first names or "monikers."
By the way, even if you disagree and your comment is contrary to what was written, that's OK (and encouraged!). Perhaps, most important, is making a comment may help clear your mind of your situation AND give insight to the readers of how their situation is affecting them.
So, providing comments is a gift to the readers of this blog as well. We all benefit by others experiences and insights and questions.
8. This Blog is Anonymous
What you read here, and write here is anonymous. The blog is simply a tool for us to vent, learn, encourage, and find peace. It is not affiliated with Al-Anon or any religious sect or denomination or public or private organization. It is privately funded with the time and energy of me and the participants. This blog is not influenced by the opinions of any organization.
MOST of all: This is meant to be a safe place for you.
9. We Encourage You
I or we, encourage you to read and comment. Some things may not pertain to you. You may find them humorous, encouraging, inconsequential or meeting with your disapproval.
Take what you want, and leave the rest, for we are simply humans doing the best we can, with what we have, at this point in time.
10. My wish to You
My wish is for you to find happiness, however you define it. You may leave or live with the alcoholic. Your promise to yourself is your promise to your life. No one can judge you and no one will judge you here.
What I am not advocating however; we may go through difficult times, this is a place to unburden. However, I am not advocating accepting any type of abuse to you or your children. To me, there is no ability to rationalize abuse, whether it be mental or physical. It you are abused, I encourage you to seek outside agencies for yourself and your family. That is as far as I can go in giving guidance.